volume 9, number 1

Table of Contents:
Presidential Message

Division 51 2003 Awards Recipients
Hyde Grant Application
Levant to Run for APA President
Nominations for Fellows

Special Focus Section: Men, Masculinity, and The Movies
The Male Therapist, Hollywood-Style | The Traditional Male in Therapy: Some Messages from Hollywood | Fathers and Sons in Film

APA Division 51 Presidential Address from Toronto APA Convention

A Fresh Perspective of Division 51 from a New Member
Listserv |Mission Statement | Div. 51 Central Office
Div 51 Midwinter Retreat
Membership Application | Policy on Book Reviews
Report from the Council | Cookbook | | Governance

SPSMM Bulletin Deadlines: January 31, April 30, October 31



Corey Habben, Psy.D.

The Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity (SPSMM) is coming up on its tenth anniversary of its formation as the 51st division of the American Psychological Association. At times like this, it is always good to look back at where we have been and ahead to where we are going. Prior to the APA convention in Toronto last August, I was doing just that. To ground myself, I took yet another look at our mission statement. Take a moment and read it again; it is available here at the SPSMM website. As I reread it, I thought about what I believe we have done very well. For example, I think this group has done a good job of examining “how gender…constricts men’s lives.” We have continued to “erode constraining definitions of masculinity” and how they have “contributed to the oppression of other people.” We will forever be indebted to feminist-inspired scholarship on gender. We have also remained firm in our commitment to women, gay/lesbian (as well as bisexual and transgendered individuals), and people of color. This should never change.

As I reflected on this, I also thought about what we may need to build upon. Particularly, our commitment to “the most healthy interactions between the genders” and the “enhancement of men’s capacity to experience their full human potential.” These particular words caught my attention as I considered the future of SPSMM and our role in the study of men, masculinity, and gender. Incidentally, some other recent readings had provided some intriguing context. I had read an excerpt from Mary Pipher’s new book “Letters to a Young Therapist,” a book of inspiring and insightful letters to a fictional graduate student about the art of therapy. In one letter, she remarks that women see apologizing as saying, "I am sorry I hurt your feelings or caused you pain." Men see it as saying, "I am eating shit." To be honest, I thought this observation was funny, and often true. And yet, I could not help but think that it was also offensive. I am certain that Mary Pipher meant no wrong, and yet it still reflects the very kind of gender pigeon-holing and negative stereotyping that we have set out to oppose.

I had a similar reaction to the recent TV mini-phenomenon “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy,” a show in which five gay men with expertise in fashion, food, grooming, culture and design “remake” a straight man. The show set new ratings records for cable channel Bravo and was rebroadcast on network sponsor NBC (a very rare thing for a cable show). My reaction was this; on the one hand, it is condescending and reinforces stereotypes on both sides (i.e./the catty gay men whose main expertise is in fashion and interior design, and the clueless straight man who struggles to put his pants on straight and lives among cinder-block furniture). Washington Post TV critic Tom Shales called it “stereotypes on parade.” On the other hand, it promotes gay/straight male relationships, how we can learn from one another as men based on our differences and similarities, and may help normalize gay men on a widely-viewed network to some segments of the audience who may be, at worst, homophobic. Should we be offended by the show, or should we applaud it? As I pondered this, I considered the reality that the public is constantly being confronted with messages about gender and gender roles, and that we are a group standing against sexism and stereotyping. What is our role?

I thought about this as I prepared my presidential address at the APA convention in Toronto. My goal was to talk about the future of our division and where we should go from here. To be honest, I was a little concerned about the reaction of the audience and our members. After I had finished with my remarks, I was thrilled to see the primary audience reaction I had hoped for: lively and productive discussion. I was pleasantly surprised to see that it seemed to resonate to the extent that I had been asked to publish my remarks here on the web page. Please take a moment and read the excerpts from this address. As another year draws to a close, do not forget your role with SPSMM and, better yet, to the continued discourse on gender, men, and masculinity.

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The Death of Cosmo

Fred Rabinowitz, Ph.D.

I was going to write about the implications of Arnold Schwarzenegger being elected as the governor of my home state, California. A body builder, movie star of mainly violent films, and at best, a casual sexual harasser of women is certainly ripe for an analysis by the new psychology of men perspective. Certainly we can see in his public persona the Big Wheel, Give em Hell, Sturdy Oak, and No Sissy Stuff roles that David and Brannon (1976) articulated so well (and utilized in David Shepard's special focus section on Men, Masculinity, and the Movies). I also see a California population unconsciously craving a “strong father” who will use his power to protect them when times are tough and uncertain (like our out of control firestorms) and random “bad guys" are terrorizing the world. Instead of ranting about politics and power, I want to write instead about the wisdom I (again) have learned from my son about what it means to be a man sans armor.

I recently came back from a trip on a Sunday night, expecting to find the family in their beds asleep. Instead all the lights were on. I was confronted by my 9 year old son in tears. “What’s wrong?” I asked. “Dad, Cosmo died.” More tears. I hugged him as he wept. “Dad, I just held him for a long time and then we just buried him in the garden.” Cosmo is my son’s first real pet of his own. We have a dog but she is considered my daughter’s main companion.

Cosmo was a hamster, who mainly awoke at night to exercise and burrow. He slept during the day. But my son used to wake him up by shaking a box of treats outside his cage, and then take him out to play. Jared had us help him build an elaborate series of tube tunnels for Cosmo on his cage to mimic his natural underground environment. Even though I wasn’t very attached to the hamster, I enjoyed watching Jared interact with him. The feelings I had when Jared came to me in tears were more for my son than for Cosmo. Cosmo only lived with us for two months, yet my son had become deeply attached.

Jared said to me, “Dad, I know how you would feel if I died.” I was blown away by his emotional vulnerability and perspective. I wanted to say that I would be more grief stricken than he could imagine, but I didn’t say it. Instead I acknowledged his pain. “You must really feel bad.” “Dad, this is the worst bad I have ever felt in my life. I loved Cosmo.” I was struck by the clarity of his emotions. There was no minimizing or acting tough. He was wide open to his grief. That night he got into my bed, his head under my arm and on my chest. I could hear him sniffling. Tears were in his eyes. “Are you okay?” I asked. “Dad, I just am going to cry myself to sleep.” And he did.

The next day, Jared told me he wasn’t up to going to school. He thought he might break out in tears in his class and didn’t want to have to deal with that with his classmates, especially his male friends. I understood, having learned early on that crying in front of the guys was only going to bring me shame. My dad would have told me to get over it. “It was only a hamster. You can handle it. You are a big boy and big boys don’t cry.” I would have said, “Okay Dad” and sucked in my tears. I would have tried to deny my grief, like many men do and go on with my life. Did I want my son to learn the same lesson? Did I want to teach him that sadness was taboo? I told him it would be fine if he stayed home, but I didn’t stay home with him.

While I went to work, my wife called in sick. During the day she helped him plant flowers, find a big rock to act as a gravestone, and bought an outdoor chair so Jared could sit near the garden for meditating and being with his grief. I am proud of him for not shutting down. I am proud of his mother for seeing the importance of this first real loss in his life. I feel bad that I wasn’t willing to sacrifice my workday to be with my son. Hopefully I will the next time he has a lesson to teach me.

David, D. S., & Brannon, R. (1976). The male sex role: Our culture’s blueprint of manhood, and what it’s done for us lately. In D.S. Brannon & R. Brannon (Eds.), The forty-nine percent majority: The male sex role (pp. 1-45). Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley.

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One of the many APA 2003 convention highlights was the presentation of this
year's division awards. At our convention social hour the following awards
were presented:

Student of the Year--Scot Boespflug, M.A.; University of Iowa
Practitioner of the Year--Mark A. Stevens, Ph.D.
Practitioner of the Year--Warren E. Spielberg, Ph.D.
Researcher of the Year--James R. Mahalik, Ph.D.
Researcher of the Year--Michael E. Addis, Ph.D.
Distinguished Professional Service--Lawrence E. Beer, Ed.D.

Congratulations to this year's award recipients.

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Call for Proposals for Hyde Graduate Student Research Grants
in the Psychology of Women and Gender

Proposals are being sought for Hyde Graduate Student Research Grants. These
grants, each up to $500, are awarded to doctoral psychology students to
support feminist research. The grants are made possible through the
generosity of Janet Hyde, Ph.D., who donates the royalties from her book,
"Half the Human Experience," to this fund. Past recipients of Hyde Graduate
Student Research Grants are not eligible to apply. Because the purpose of
this award is to facilitate research that otherwise might not be possible,
projects that are beyond the data analysis stage are not eligible.
1. Cover-sheet with project title, investigator's name, address, phone,
fax, and e-mail address.
2. A 100-word abstract
3. A proposal (5-pages maximum, double-spaced) addressing the project's
purpose, theoretical rationale, and procedures, including how the method
and data analysis stem from the proposed theory and purpose
4. A one-page statement articulating the study's relevance to feminist
goals and importance to feminist research
5. The expected timeline for progress and completion of the project
(including the date of the research proposal committee meeting). The
project timeline should not exceed two years.
6. A faculty sponsor's recommendation, including why the research cannot
be funded by other sources. This letter (5 copies) should be included with
the proposal materials. Please do not send it separately.
7. Status of human research review process, including expected date of
human research committee submission and approval. Preference will be given
to proposals that have received human research approval
8. An itemized budget (if additional funds are needed to ensure completion
of the project, please specify sources).
9. The applicant's curriculum vitae
10. Two self-addressed, stamped envelopes
11. All sections of the proposal should be typed and prepared according to
APA style (e.g., please use 12-point font)
Five copies of all documents are required.
Proposals that fail to meet the guidelines set forth above will not be reviewed.
Review Process
A panel of psychologists will evaluate the proposals for theoretical and
methodological soundness, relevance to feminist goals, applicant's training
and qualifications to conduct the research, and feasibility of completing
the project.
Other Requirements
Within 24 months of receipt of the grant, recipients are expected to submit
to the Hyde committee chair a complete and final copy of the research
document (e.g., a copy of the thesis, dissertation or journal manuscript
based on the sponsored research), along with a800-word abstract for
publication in Division 35 newsletter. In addition, grant recipients shall
acknowledge the funding source in the author's notes in all publications.
Hyde award winners will be announced at the APA convention during Division
35 Social Hour. The names of the Hyde award winners may also be posted in
Division 35 newsletter as well as on Division 35 web page and listserv.
Proposals (5 copies of all documents) should be submitted to the committee
chair: Silvia Sara Canetto, Ph.D., Chair, Hyde Research Award Committee,
Department of Psychology, Colorado State University, Fort Collins, CO
80523-1876. Phone: (970) 491-5415, FAX: (970) 491-1032. E-mail:
To be considered, proposals should be postmarked by either of these
deadlines: March 15th or September 15th.Silvia Sara Canetto, Ph.D.
Associate Professor
Department of Psychology
Colorado State University
Fort Collins, Co 80523-1876
Ph: (970) 491-5415
Fax:(970) 491-1032
e.mail: scanetto@lamar.colostate.edu

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Co-founder and first President of Division 51 Ronald F. Levant is a candidate for APA President. He received the largest number of nomination votes in history (2344). Division 51 has endorsed his candidacy.

During these uncertain times, psychology is increasingly called upon for its scientific knowledge and professional skills. Psychology needs an experienced leader who has a history of working with all of psychology’s constituencies, and who can bring us together to effectively respond to these challenges.

Dr. Levant has served as professor, research investigator, clinical and academic administrator, clinical supervisor, public and private practitioner, author, political advocate, and public communicator. Through this experience, he has developed a broad perspective on the discipline and profession of psychology. He knows that psychology’s strength derives from its rich scientific and professional traditions, that the students in APAGS are our future, that our future will be affected in unexpected ways by technological change as the 21st century evolves, and that APA, despite all of our differences, is one family.

He has a vision for psychology’s future in which the growing integration of the science and practice of psychology will expand opportunities for knowledge generation and service delivery aimed at addressing society’s most pressing problems, and thus make psychology a household word.

He stated: “I want to make psychology a household word. As one of the learned professions, we have much to offer society. Building on the Decade of Behavior and Talk to Someone Who Can Help campaigns, I would seek to raise the visibility and perceived relevance of psychology to solving society’s most difficult problems. Public education would bring the best of psychological science and practice to the center of the public eye. Legislative advocacy would aim at significantly enhancing funding for psychological science and effectively positioning psychology to emerge as a top tier health profession in the coming integration of healthcare.”

He is committed to:
1 .advocating for a prominent place for psychologists in the health care arena and expanding the scope of psychological practice.
2. positioning psychology to emerge as a top-tier health profession/discipline in the coming integration of behavioral health with physical health in the health care system.
3. enhancing the inclusiveness and diversity (in all of its dimensions, including race/ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, disability, and age) not only of the profession but also of its leadership and its students, and to promoting the multicultural competence of the membership.
4. addressing the problems with Institutional Review Boards, enhancing the public perception of psychological science, increasing psychological research funding, and bringing scientists back to APA.
5. creating a voice for education in APA and addressing the need for reliable and valid tools to measure student learning outcomes, at all levels of psychology education.

Ron Levant’s Experience
Proven Leader: Ron Levant is currently serving a second term as the APA Recording Secretary, and is Associate Editor of Professional Psychology: Research and Practice. He has previously served a term on the APA Board of Directors, two terms on the APA Council of Representatives, as member and chair (each for two terms) of the APA Committee for the Advancement of Professional Practice, President of the Massachusetts Psychological Association and of Division 43 (Family Psychology), former Editor of the Journal of Family Psychology, and co-founder and first President of Division 51 – the Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity. He represented APA at the White House Summit Meeting and the Surgeon General’s Conference on Children’s Mental Health.

Recent Accomplishments: As a member of the Board of Directors he chaired the Task Force that resolved the long-standing issue of representation of small state psychological associations and divisions on the APA Council of Representatives through the creation of the "Wildcard Plan." Most recently he co-chaired the “Wildcard 2” effort that now seats all State, Provincial and Territorial Psychological Associations. He co-chaired the Commission on Education and Training Leading to Licensure, is currently chairing the APA and American Psychological Foundation Task Force on Promoting Resilience in Response to Terrorism.

Academic Experience: Dr. Levant has served on the faculties of Boston, Rutgers, and Harvard Universities. He is currently Dean and Professor, Center for Psychological Studies, Nova Southeastern University. He has authored, co-authored, edited or co-edited 13 books and over 120 refereed journal articles and book chapters in family and gender psychology and in advancing professional psychology. One of Dr. Levant’s contributions is in the new psychology of boys and men. He has been developed theory and conducted a fifteen-year research program on masculinity ideology in multicultural perspective. In addition to his writing, Dr. Levant has served as guest editor for special issues of several journals (The Counseling Psychologist, Psychotherapy, Journal of Clinical Psychology in Medical Settings, and The Journal of African American Men), and serves on the Editorial Boards of eleven journals. He has also received many awards for his work, including the Distinguished Professional Service Award from APA Division 51, the Jack Krasner Memorial Award from APA Division 29 (Psychotherapy), the Heiser APA Presidential Award for Advocacy, the Ezra Saul Psychological Service Award from the Massachusetts Psychological Association, and the Harold Hildreth Award from APA Division 18 (Psychologists in Public Service). He is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, a Diplomate of the American Board of Professional Psychology in both Clinical and Family Psychology, and a Distinguished Practitioner of the National Academies of Practice.

For more information, please visit Ron’s website: http://www.DrRonaldLevant.com
Please vote # 1 for Ron Levant for APA President. The ballots go out on October 15, 2003 with a 45 day balloting period.

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Psychology of Men and Masculinity  

Psychology of Men and Masculinity is among the world’s first scholarly publications devoted to the dissemination of research, theory, and clinical scholarship that advance the discipline of the psychology of men and masculinity. This discipline is defined broadly as the study of how men’s psychology is influenced and shaped by gender, and by the process of masculinization, in both its socially constructed and biological forms. We welcome scholarship that advances our understanding of men’s psychology, across the life span, across racial and ethnic groups, and across time.  

Examples of relevant topics include, but are not limited to, the processes and consequences of male gender socialization, including its impact on men’s health, behavior, interpersonal relationships, emotional development, violence, and psychological well-being; assessment and measurement of the masculine gender role; gender role strain, stress, and conflict; masculinity ideology; fathering; men’s utilization of psychological services; conceptualization and assessment of interventions addressing men’s understanding of masculinity; sexuality and sexual orientation; biological aspects of male development; and the victimization of male children and adults.  

Submitted manuscripts must be written in the style outlined in the 2001 Publication Manual of the American Psychological Association (fifth edition). Psychology of Men and Masculinity will accept both regular length submissions (7,500 words) and brief reports (2,500 words). Submitted manuscripts must not have been previously published and must not be under consideration for publication elsewhere.

Four copies of the manuscript should be mailed to: Sam Cochran, PhD, 3223 Westlawn, University of Iowa, Iowa City, IA 52242-1100, Phone: (319) 335-7294, Fax: (319) 335-7298, Email: sam-cochran@uiowa.edu.

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Nominations for Fellows

Nominations for Fellow Status in divisions 51, APA are presently being accepted for 2005. If you are aware of a member who has been exemplary in the areas of Research or Service for the Psychology of Males and Masculinity (or if you yourself fit the mold), please forward names to our new Fellows Chair: Mark S. Kiselica, Ph.D., HSPP, NCC, LPC Professor and Chairperson, Department of Counselor Education, 332 Forcina Hall, The College of New Jersey, PO Box 7718, Ewing,NJ 08628-0718. Office phone: (609) 771-3462 email: kiselica@tcnj.edu

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Special Focus Section


Special Focus Editor, David S. Shepard, Ph.D.
California State University, Fullerton

The question as to whether Hollywood simply reflects current cultural attitudes and values or whether it also influences them will likely be an ongoing debate in scholarly and political arenas. Social scientists have posited Hollywood as both a force for consolidating social values and structures and for contesting them (Slocum, 2000). In either case, an examination of how men and masculinity are portrayed in Hollywood films and television productions would seem to be an area worthy of study by New Psychology of Men researchers. At the least, such explorations can reveal how commercial entertainment represents current cultural definitions of masculinity; but they also may be able to suggest and demonstrate how Hollywood can influence – for good or bad – changes in our notions of what constitutes normative masculinity and “manly” behavior.

So far, with a few exceptions, we have left the study of masculinity and popular culture to other disciplines (e.g., cultural studies, cinema studies, the close text analysis enjoyed by psychoanalytic scholars). Yet, when we psychologists think about masculinity, try to define it, conjure up images of men who symbolize masculine traits, my hunch is that most of us can not get very far without some movie characters or male movie stars popping up in our minds. We cannot but help to refer to celluloid heroes as part of our discourse on gender role socialization. Note this paragraph from David’s and Brannon’s The Forty-Nine Percent Majority, that small book that has been seminal in our theories and research for almost 40 years. It is in the section where the authors first describe “The Sturdy Oak” norm of masculinity.

"There is something rather unreal about this formidable creature that everyone us (men) is supposed to be – something illogical, impossible, and for most of us, deeply thrilling. Growing up in America as life became increasingly civilized, urban, and complex, we sat in darkened movie theaters and watched these unreal men, fashioned by some Hollywood scriptwriter, larger and far more compelling than our real lives. We watched Gary Cooper standing alone on that long, dusty street, in High Noon…ready to die, but not to run. Usually the man we longed to be was big and fast on the draw like that, but sometimes it was a seemingly ordinary guy who showed real strength when the chips were down. Montgomery Clift’s unforgettable Corporal Prewitt, in From Here to Eternity, couldn’t be broken by anything a whole army could dish out, and he showed us that “real men” come in all sizes" (David & Brannon, 1976, pp.24-25).

If it is about time that we engage in serious thinking about the interrelationship of Hollywood and male gender role socialization, some warnings to the potential researcher are in order. Blanket generalizations about how Hollywood portrays men will not hold up. Just as we have discovered in new psychology of men research that there is no one masculinity but instead multiple masculinities, we will find the same when we examine movies and television shows. As Hubert Cohen has pointed out, Gary Cooper, whose portrayal of cowboys has become synonymous with the “strong, silent type”, was “one of the most loquacious cowboys ever to appear on the screen (in The Virginian)” (Cohen, 1998, p.57). The 1930’s gave us both the tough-guy gangster and the graceful, dancing Fred Astaire. The 40’s had Bogart, who was all No Sissy Stuff, Big Wheel, and Give’em Hell – but not such a Sturdy Oak. Casablanca, considered by the American Film Institute to be the second greatest Hollywood movie ever made (Citizen Kane was ranked #1), was ultimately about an openly depressed man coping (badly) with feelings of abandonment. The 1950’s featured the corporate man in countless films, motivated by the success, power and competition values described by O’Neil et al (1986); but it also gave us James Dean, an iconic male whose great talent was to wear all of his vulnerabilities on his sleeve. The 60’s was both The Graduate and James Bond. And so on.

That being said, this special focus section features three articles by authors who have taken the risk of pondering in public (well, at least the Division 51 public) some of the ways males are currently portrayed in cinema and television. Dennis Palumbo, a therapist and former screenwriter (My Favorite Year, and others) shares some insights about the ways in which our culture’s conflicting and ambivalent attitudes about how men are supposed to be are reflected in Hollywood’s portrayal of male psychotherapists. I will follow with a piece on the male client, noting some positive trends regarding Hollywood’s view of men in therapy. Finally, Ed Tejerian writes about father-son relationships in the original Star Wars trilogy, and in contemporary cinema.

Comments on this section can be sent to me at dshepard@fullerton.edu.

Cohen, H. (1998). “Men have tears”: The other cowboy hero. Journal of American Culture, 21, 57-78.
David, D. S., & Brannon, R. (1976). The male sex role: Our culture’s blueprint of manhood, and what it’s done for us lately. . In D.S. Brannon & R. Brannon (Eds.), The forty-nine percent majority:The male sex role (pp. 1-45). Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley.
O'Neil, J. M., Helms, B. J., Gable, R. K., David, L. & Wrightsman, L. S. (1986). Gender-Role Conflict Scale: college men's fear of femininity. Sex Roles, 14, 335-350
Slocum, J.D. (2000). Film violence and the institutionalization of the cinema. Social Research, 67, 649-681.
Many films and television productions are cited in the articles in this section. Rather than provide references APA-style for all of them, we will simply acknowledge that numerous producers, directors, screenwriters, cinematographers, editors, technicians and actors collaborated in the creation of these works.

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Dennis Palumbo, M.A., MFT (former screenwriter)

Private Practice, Los Angeles

Two iconic images, from two memorable films: In the first, Now, Voyager, a sage, kind-eyed Claude Rains walks with a forlorn Bette Davis on the pastoral grounds of the
institution to which she’s been sent. He’s both paternal and incisive, and---perhaps more importantly---obviously knows what’s good for her.

In the second film, The Three Faces of Eve, a somewhat more imposing yet equally knowledgeable Lee J. Cobb helps Joanne Woodward parse out the three distinct personalities tormenting her. Like Claude Rains before him, he’s a model of the patriarchal culture, a therapist of unquestionable motives and unimpeachable authority. One of the good guys. Which begs the question: how did we get from there to Hannibal Lecter?

Because it seems that, with rare exceptions, that’s where we are, at least according to the depictions of male therapists currently displayed on film and TV. From evil and homicidal at worst, to bumbling and self-deluded at best. Not to mention frequently unethical, manipulative, and sexually predatory. In today’s popular media, the male therapist has become a kind of symbolic catch-all character, representing the failure of patriarchal authority and the emptiness of academic or intellectual understanding, while reaffirming a tacit suspicion of the concept of male empathy.

While we’ll discuss other examples illustrating these themes, from various TV series and films, the salient one for me is that of the psychiatrist in the play and film Equus. Portrayed in the latter by Richard Burton at his most stentorious, he is learned, sober, a pillar of the medical community. At first disturbed by and worried for his patient, a young man who has blinded six horses in a frenzy of psychosexual torment, Burton comes to be awed by and envious of the unmediated passion the boy possesses. At story’s end, the psychiatrist puts his patient on medication that will leave him tranquil but denuded of that unique passion, which prompts Burton’s character to look into the camera and admit his personal ennui, professional impotence, and cultural hypocracy. (See, the crazy guy is psychologically “healthier” than the mental health professional!)

Which seems to me to be a pervasive theme underlying the depiction of male therapists in the popular media. After all, the failed paternalism represented by the psychiatrist in Equus is not that far removed from the snobbery of Frazier Crane, the social ineptness of Bob Hartley, the depressed, posthumous inadequacy of Bruce Willis in The Sixth Sense.

The image of the male therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist has undergone some troubling permutations in the past forty or so years, in both film and television. And while it’s always a good idea to bring a well-earned skepticism to Hollywood’s depiction of any profession, it can be very instructive to observe as a mirror to the culture’s perceived notions.

Though this is hardly an original thought, I think the depiction of male therapists on screen follows the trajectory of our changed views and expectations of males in general, in both their personal psychologies and their representative standing in the culture. Without exploring this psychosocial shifting, we’ll never understand how Claude Rains turned into Kelsey Grammer, Lee J. Cobb into Anthony Hopkins.

The two most obvious elements of this transformation are feminist critiques of traditional Freudian analysis, and the pervasive cultural irony threading through our view of authoritarian privilege in post-WW II America. Paradoxically, while I believe feminist scholars were right to criticize clinical treatment as male-dominated and culturally patriarchal, the patient pool from which Freud’s theories evolved was entirely female. Thus, in the ensuing decades, the research---and the conclusions regarding “healthy functioning”---are female-normed: the healthy patient is verbal, disclosive, comfortable with eye-to-eye contact. Men who have difficulty mastering---or are even unfamiliar with---these modes of interaction definitely “had work to do.”

This re-evaluation of standard male traits coincided, over the post-war decades, with a withering of patriarchal values in general. The masculine center was not holding. Examples are abundant, from popular fiction (Catch-22, The Ugly American), to harried sitcom husbands and dads (from "I Love Lucy" to "Bewitched" to the present), to cartoons of the pompous, without-a-clue big-shots in the New Yorker. Like most male professionals during this period, male shrinks became...well...funny. Hence, Dr. Bob Hartley in the popular "Bob Newhart Show." Larry Hagman’s military psychiatrist/friend in "I Dream of Jeanie." And, currently, the uptight, overly-intellectual Niles and Frazier Crane.

This coincided with a trend, during these same years, of popular films that threw cold water on the whole idea of psychological inquiry as a positive tool for the alleviating of suffering. Films as diverse as The Manchurian Candidate, Spellbound, The Snake Pit, One Flew Over the Cukoo’s Nest and others suggested the nefarious ways psychological understanding could be exploited or used for evil, often conflating its concepts with those of brain-washing and drug-induced manipulation. Even such recent films as A Beautiful Mind depicted the horrendous misapplication of electro-convulsive treatment---at the hands, of course, of a cooly assured male psychiatrist. A real Poster Boy for the clueless patriarchy.

In terms of the depiction of male therapists, this wary view of the profession itself only amplified the themes discussed earlier. Plus, there was another cultural shift in attidude toward gender to assimilate. In recent post-feminist times, with the mantle of patriarchal authority removed from their shoulders, yet with no alternative image to replace it, we find conflicting views as to what men should actually be like. The “sensitive” man is suddenly under assault. As a result, there’s the sense that being a male therapist has become somewhat unseemly---or, at the very least, suspicious. As though, for a real man, it was no longer a respectable profession.

Now, it seems, there appear to be two opposing depictions on screen: in the first, we find the male therapist as severely troubled, often predatory, or even homicidal: Bruce Willis in Color of Night. Alan Alda in Whispers In the Dark. Richard Gere in Final Analysis. On TV, Nicol Williamson and George Hamilton each played murdering psychiatrists on episodes of "Columbo." And, frankly, most male therapists portrayed on "Law and Order" or "NYPD Blue" are of questionable character. Even when they’re not suspects, they’re usually uncaring and/or unethical.

What makes this more irksome is the contrast with the current depiction of female therapists: Barbra Streisand’s Dr. Lowenstein in Prince of Tides. Jennifer Melfi on "The Sopranos." The recurring character of Dr. Elizabeth Olivett on "Law and Order."

Not that there aren’t positive portrayals of male therapists on film and TV. (Two that come to mind are Gregory Peck’s Captain Newman, M.D., from the film of the same name; and camp psychiatrist Sidney Freedman on the TV series "M*A*S*H," played with rueful warmth by Allan Arbus.) What’s striking now, however, is the pervasive split in terms of how the personalities of male therapists are usually presented. Again, with rare exception, male therapists are currently caught in an unmediated black-or-white dichotomy: the good guys are warm and fuzzy (Judd Hirsch in Ordinary People, Robin Williams in Good Will Hunting), the bad ones are psychotic (the above-mentioned Hannibal Lecter). (In some attempt at balance, I should mention the recent, short-lived WB series "Birds of Prey," in which Mia Sara portrayed an evil female psychiatrist named Dr. Harley Quinn. Grandiose, homicidal, the works. Then again, what else would you expect of the Joker’s girlfriend?)

So, is the situation hopeless? Define your terms. B.D. Wong portrays a police psychiatrist on "Law and Order: SVU" as a positive, effective--though irritatingly bloodless--character. More multi-faceted, and therefore believable, is the testy, driven consultant Dr. Emil Skoda (apparently the replacement for Elizabeth Olivet’s character) on the flag- ship series "Law and Order." Then there’s Dr. Melfi’s own analyst on "The Sopranos," played as a caring though sadly limpid colleague by Peter Bogdonavich. At least he’s not shown having a sexual relationship with her.

Regrettably, it seems the manner in which male therapists are portrayed on screen reflects our culture’s ambivalence toward both the profession in general and notions about its male practitioners in particular. Like the range of attitudes from guarded suspicion to outright hostility with which priests are currently viewed, male therapists suffer from the expectations of a disillusioned public, whose disappointment is masked by pop culture depictions of either warmly-accepting “soft males” or coldly calculating manipulators. A thwarted paternal imago, perhaps, buffed to a stereotypical finish by the narrative demands of film and TV. So that now, to the hallowed images of tough private eye, brilliant physician, and ruthless attorney, we’ve added the warm/cold, empathic/psychotic character potentialities of the male therapist. Take your pick: The father we never had, or the husband we fear. The caring doctor, or the insinuating mastermind. The lover of life, the taker of life.

Hmmm. Sounds like we could all use a walk with Claude Rains right about now.

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David S. Shepard, Ph.D.(also a former screenwriter)

I was recently watching on a cable movie channel Alfred Hitchock’s classic film, Spellbound, made over 50 years ago. Here was a film with a male hero, played by the late Gregory Peck, who is psychoanalyzed (by beautiful analyst, Ingrid Bergman). His panic attacks, as well as the mystery story at the heart of the movie’s plot – are resolved by dream interpretation. I was struck by the fact that Spellbound never implies there is something weak or unmanly about Gregory Peck’s needing help. The film implicitly conveyed the message that a male hero could allow himself to be analyzed without threatening his masculinity.

Fifty years later, we have a seen a spate of recent major Hollywood productions about men who become psychotherapy clients. Good Will Hunting, Analyze This, "The Sopranos," and most recently, Antwone Fisher are some examples of critically and commercially successful films and television series featuring extensive psychotherapy scenes. What messages do these works convey? When successful Hollywood productions feature their male protagonists as clients, messages about the therapeutic experience are being sent to an audience of millions of men. Given the well-documented reluctance for men to seek counseling help (and the costs in well-being men pay for their avoidance of therapy), these messages have real significance: are they telling men that the therapeutic experience is something positive, or do they validate, at least for the traditional man, the fear that therapy is an emasculating experience? In other words, how do these films deal with the tension between traditional male role prohibitions against disclosure of vulnerable feelings and admitting the failure of self-reliance--and the process of psychotherapy, which inevitably challenges these prohibitions?

Hollywood would seem to be acutely aware of this tension and its dramatic possibilities. All of the films I have mentioned feature highly traditional males, uneducated men, raised in tough neighborhoods. Matt Damon’s character in Good Will Hunting is from the Irish-American blue collar world of South Boston. Antwone Fisher is a soldier in the Navy, raised in orphanages, foster homes and reform schools in African-American sections of Cleveland. Analyze This and "The Sopranos" feature protagonists who are tough Mafia bosses. Most of these men are extreme embodiments of all four of David’s and Brannon’s (1976) characteristics of the traditional male gender role, what Pollack later termed, The Boy Code (Pollack, 1998). The Big Wheel – the need to be dominant; No Sissy Stuff – the denial of feelings associated with femininity; Give-em Hell – embracing violence and bravado as marks of masculinity; The Sturdy Oak--stoic and self-reliant. The tension inherent in the psychotherapy portrayed in these films is the clash between these men’s adherence to these gender role beliefs and the therapeutic process. Perhaps, to some degree, these films are portraying the drama that can be inherent in any psychotherapy with traditional men. Thus, these productions seemed worthy of analysis from a New Psychology of Men perspective.

I specifically examined three works, the drama,Good Will Hunting; the comedy, Analyze This; and the HBO series, "The Sopranos." Two themes emerged from my analysis.

  • The process of therapy itself is portrayed as a competitive power struggle for control of the session, regardless of the gender of the therapist. Power shifts back and forth between client and therapist several times within a therapy session. In Good Will Hunting, the power struggle is most dramatically pronounced. Will is a 20-something math genius and auto-didact who, for unknown psychological reasons, disowns his prodigious intellectual gifts in favor of the blue collar life of a construction worker. Sent to therapy as an alternative to doing jail time for his role in a bar brawl, he immediately tries to unsettle his therapist, Robin Williams, by demonstrating his intimate familiarity with the various texts in William’s office. Williams fights back by pointing out that Will’s experientially-based knowledge of life is stronger than Damon’s arid memorization of books. Back and forth they verbally jab, ultimately leading to Williams actually physically grabbing Damon’s neck in the middle of the session. In Analyze This, mob boss Robert DeNiro, seeking help for his panic attacks, uses intimidation, control, and even flattery to ensure that he is in the one-up position, defending against his dependency on the therapist for help and the lure of Crystal’s accurate empathy. In "The Sopranos," the battle for power is waged on a more subtle level, as New Jersey mafia don Tony Soprano and his female therapist, Dr. Melfi, attempt to undo each other’s self-composure; the therapist’s “direct hit” interpretations momentarily discomfit the mobster, who fights back with some particularly unsettling story from his violent life, meant to throw Dr. Melfi off of her neutral therapeutic perch.
  • The second theme is that these scenes, and the overall films themselves, can be seen as dramatizing a struggle between traditional gender role norms and a more expansive definition of masculinity, one that allows for expressions of vulnerability, acceptance of dependency needs, and catharses of loss and grief. Most importantly, the fact that therapy succeeds in these works implies to the audience that this more expansive masculinity is healthier than rigid adherence to the traditional role. Thus, these films can be seen as critiques of the traditional male role.
  • In Good Will Hunting and Analyze This, the male therapists themselves represent this more flexible and integrated masculinity, and so the fact that they successfully treat their clients, despite the power struggle, validates their more integrated definition of masculinity. In Good Will Hunting, Will is, in plot construction terms, the protagonist, fighting to hang on to his tough guy identity; and Robin Williams is the antagonist, fighting with Will to give it up. And Will loses; the climax of the film, after Will recalls the physical abuse he received as child, is the release of tears, and his allowing himself to receive the containment his therapist can give him. Similarly, the battle is over in Analyze This when DeNiro remembers a traumatic moment of helplessness from his childhood and collapses in tears in Crystal’s arms. The tears and his surrender to his need for comfort by the therapist are the signals to the audience that the client is now on the path to healing. Whether the films want to move us or amuse us, they are asking us to feel good about what has happened to these strong men. (Analyze This cements this theme in a later scene where DeNiro cries when watching a father-son moment in a TV commercial, ratifying that he is now a man “in touch with his feelings.”)

    In the ongoing series, "The Sopranos," the battle between Tony’s need to resist therapy and protect his traditional male identity, and his therapist’s insistence that Tony experience both painful memories and their associated affects, remains unresolved; the series continues to air new episodes. However, it is still clear from the flashbacks to Tony Soprano’s childhood that we, the audience, are intended to believe that the therapist is correct in viewing him as a male whose traumatic lessons in becoming his father’s definition of a man have left him with unresolved wounds.

    One sequence in the series’ third year is a particularly striking example of the dark side of male socialization and the price men pay. If the reader is not familiar with the series, Tony Soprano’s life is about power, control and domination – and the tribulations he experiences when not only his mobster rivals, but also his wife and children, refuse to comply. He also struggles with an inner conflict of unknown origin, manifesting as anxiety attacks, and which send him into therapy with a woman therapist.

    In this particular sequence, Dr. Melfi, is facilitating his recollections of childhood scenes that might hold clues to his anxiety attacks. We see in this flashback Tony, about nine or ten, witnessing his father, also a Mafioso, chopping off the finger of the local butcher, who has failed to pay off gambling debts. Later at home, the father praises his son for not crying when he saw the violent incident, and explaining that this kind of brutality is necessary in life. In the following scene in the Sopranos’ kitchen, Tony watches as his father uses the gift of some raw meat taken from the butcher as a prelude to seducing his wife. As young Tony silently observes his father and mother tenderly dancing around the kitchen table, that slab of beef just a few feet away on the counter, we can feel with Tony the mélange of sex, violence and power swirling in his mind. So this is what it means to be a man. Intertwined with all of this is Tony’s lesson just moments ago that a real man suppresses normal fearful emotions. As Mom and Dad caress each other, Tony literally faints from the overwhelming confusion. Following the flashback, we cut back to Tony in a therapy session, where Tony wriggles uncomfortably as the therapist explains the traumatic nature of these events in a child’s life. His struggle to resist taking this in, and the plain truth of his trauma, tell us that therapy has won.

    Tony grows up to emulate his father, but at a cost, the price being the uneasy unconscious, disturbed dreams, and panic attacks that plague him. Here, the multi-episode storyline is a virtual manifestation of the gender role strain construct – Tony Soprano’s socialized compliance with the extremes of the traditional male role is virtually untenable. Maintaining this role is simply too difficult.

    Ultimately, I see these films as endorsements for therapy for men. The men heal. Will Hunting is happier at the end of the movie then he was at the beginning. Robert DeNiro’s mobster is a better man. Tony Soprano is having fewer anxiety attacks and resolving old issues. Most importantly, whatever men fear most about the therapeutic process – loss of control, unendurable shame, the undermining of their masculinity, or stigmatizing by their peers – never happens in these stories. The fact that male clients and their therapists engage in power struggles reflects the reality that therapy is a challenge to men’s gender role straightjackets and that the jacket won’t come off without a fight. The power struggles also normalize therapy as a process. It is a process that takes courage and persistence; as in Spellbound 50 years earlier, there is nothing unmanly about it.

    David, D. S., & Brannon, R. (1976). The male sex role: Our culture’s blueprint of manhood, and what it’s done for us lately. . In D.S. Brannon & R. Brannon (Eds.), The forty-nine percent majority:The male sex role (pp. 1-45). Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley.
    Pollack, W.S. (1998). Real boys: Rescuing our sons from the myths of boyhood. New York: Henry Holt and Company

    Portions of this article were presented at the American Psychological Association Annual Convention 2003, Toronto.

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    Ed Tejrian, Ph.D.
    Private Practice, New York City

    In the early part of the last century, Freud said that he could not imagine anything more important to a child than a father's protection. One might argue that there has been a steady erosion of this concept of the father in the child's life since that time, to the point that, by the beginning of the present century, questions have been raised about whether it is essential for a son to have a father in his life at all. In fact, many men have grown up to be successful adults who had a flawed relationship or even no relationship with their fathers. But that fact has only a tangential relationship to something else that is equally important—the subjective, inner lives of men. And it is the subjective, inner meaning of the father and son relationship that constitutes the primary focus of its cinematic treatment. The father–son theme extends across commercial and cultural boundaries. In this country, it is found in mainstream Hollywood as well as independent films, and it occurs in European and non-European foreign films.

    While a film can originate in the idiosyncratic experience of its author, in order to find an audience it has to touch the inner lives of others as well. At times, the vision of a particular director can express themes that resonate across an entire culture. Such is the case with George Lucas's Star Wars series. The first episode of the original trilogy was released in 1977, three years after the end of the Viet Nam war. This was not a coincidence. In the psychoanalytic concept of "splitting" the image of the parent is split into "positive" and "negative"—light and dark—sides. In Star Wars, Darth Vader, the sinister embodiment of the "dark side" of the force, can be seen as symbolic of the dark, negative side of the nation's "father"—the president who drove its sons into the furnace of war. In fact, the war abroad had its parallel in a war at home, as the generation of sons rejected traditional concepts of patriotism as well as masculinity held by the generation of the fathers.

    But beyond culture, for some men the dark side of the father is also a palpable, personal reality as the father who has wounded his son deeply through abandonment, emotional rejection, or even physical abuse. Star Wars is about healing the breach between father and son, individually as well as culturally. In fact, that healing is a recurrent and trans-cultural theme in films about fathers and sons.

    In The Empire Strikes Back, the second film in the trilogy released in 1980, Darth Vader reveals to Luke Skywalker, the hero of the series, that he is his father. Stricken and in tears, Luke screams, "That's impossible," and rejects his father's invitation to join him on the "dark side" and rule the galaxy with him. As father and son duel, one of the son's hands is severed at the wrist and he falls into an abyss where, clinging to a support by his good hand, he is rescued by his friends. Later, as the spaceship carrying Luke hurtles away, Vader sends his thoughts to Luke, saying, "Son, come with me." Luke, who cannot help being deeply moved, murmurs, "Father."

    Three years later, in The Return of the Jedi, the final episode of the trilogy, a three-way confrontation takes place between Luke, Darth Vader, and the Emperor whom Vader serves. The Emperor wishes Vader to persuade Luke to join them. Again Luke refuses, and once again father and son duel. But as Luke gains the upper hand, the Emperor intervenes, sending near-lethal electrical currents through Luke's body, with the intention of killing him. As the son writhes on the ground in pain, he begs his father to help him. After a moment's agonizing hesitation, Vader picks up the Emperor bodily and hurls him screaming into outer space. Vader, who knows he is dying, asks Luke to take off the fearful mask that is also his life-support system, saying, "Just once, I want to see you with my own eyes." Luke complies, and in the final scene, we see him solemnly lighting his father's funeral pyre.

    Looking closely at the father–son drama in Star Wars, we see three related elements. The first element is two-sided—the potential for dark or light—rejection or love—on the part of the father. The second element is the son's need for a loving connection, wherever possible, with the father. The third element is the father's own need to be completed by the connection with his son.

    Looking at father and son films before Star Wars, it seems to me that the focus was primarily on the second of the above elements—the son's need for the father. Perhaps the most notable of such films, East of Eden, appeared in 1955 and starred James Dean in his first major role. Raymond Massey played the father whose goodness and moral rectitude is a constant rebuke to the wildness of his moody, unpredictable younger son. In a pivotal scene, the father refuses to accept a gift of money that his son has made through agricultural speculation (the time is World War I). Dean creates a wrenching portrayal of adolescent grief and need as he begs his father to take the money, desperately throwing himself on his father's rigid, unyielding body. It is only after his father suffers a massive stroke and wordlessly agrees to allow his son to care for him that the breach between father and son is healed.

    If we fast-forward to the beginning of this century we see the elements of the father-son story in Star Wars in today's films as well, although they are arranged in different ways and in different dramatic contexts. In particular, we see an emphasis on the third element present in Star Wars epic—the father's love and need for the son, the love that turned Darth Vader away from the "dark side." A number of films have shown this in the intense grief of the father for his lost son. In In the Bedroom—an American movie, and The Son—a Belgian film, the son is murdered. In The Son’s Room—an Italian movie, he dies in a scuba diving accident. In The Road to Perdition, released in 2002, Tom Hanks plays a hit man who, like Darth Vader, ends up giving his own life in order to save his son.

    Antwone Fisher, another film released the same year, quite deliberately addresses one of the realities of the African-American experience today—the boy growing up without a father. Denzel Washington plays a Navy psychiatrist who takes under his wing a young African-American man whose father died before he was born, and who was raised first in institutions and then in a brutal foster home. The defining moment of the film is when Antwone, the young man, is urged by Dr. Jerome Davenport, the psychiatrist, to try to find his family. The young man, says, "Why do I have to look for my family? I have you, Doc." In the end, he agrees to go and as he is about to embark on his journey, Davenport, who is himself childless, says to Antwone, "I love you, son," to which the young man replies, "I love you too."

    In Frequency, released in 2000, the protagonist, John Sullivan, has been depressed ever since his father died fighting a fire, thirty years before. The plot gimmick in the film is that, due to the extraordinary effects of a brilliant and prolonged Aurora Borealis, a time warp occurs in which, via his father’s old ham radio, John receives a message from his father, who was is still alive in another time dimension. In the son’s time dimension, it is the night before the 30th anniversary of his father’s death. In his father’s time dimension it is the night before the fire that will kill him. The now thirty-six year old John desperately tells his father how to avoid the mistake that, thirty years before, cost him his life in the fire he was fighting.

    When they meet via the airwaves the day after the fire, both father and son realize that the son has saved the father's life. They talk, catching up on the lost years, and when the father, who used to call his son "little chief" when he was small, learns that he has become a police officer instead of following the family tradition and becoming a fire fighter, he at first feigns shock. But then, he tenderly asks his thirty-six year old son, "But you're still my little chief, right?" And then, using the same phrase as Davenport does in Antwone Fisher, his father says, "I love you, son," to which the son, fighting back his tears, replies, "I love you too, Dad—I missed you so much."

    In Monsters Ball and City by the Sea, both shown in 2002, the relationship of father to son has direct consequences not only for the son's emotional well-being, but also for his life. In Monsters Ball, when the father physically attacks his grown son, the son first responds with violence of his own, and then asks his father, "You hate me, don't you?" We see the dark side of the father turned against his son in cold fury as he replies, "Yeah, I hate you...I've always hated you." "Well," the son says softly, I always loved you," and shoots himself in the heart.

    City by the Sea concerns itself with another expression of the dark side of the father in contemporary America—his virtual abandonment of his son after divorce. Robert DeNiro is a New York City detective, Vincent LaMarca, whose son Joey is being sought in connection with two murders. Joey, who has not seen his father since before adolescence, is being asked by his father to turn himself in. He refuses, and in a final confrontation with his father in a warehouse surrounded by police swat teams, threatens to commit "suicide by cop" by showing himself in the window while holding a gun. The professional detachment from his grown son that Vincent has until now maintained begins to crumble. No longer the cop, he becomes completely the father, desperately imploring his son to live. In turn, the son lets slip the angry, scornful mask that has protected him from his need for his father. He whispers, "Hold me," and moves into his father's arms. In Monsters Ball, the father's hatred killed his son. In City by the Sea his father's love saves him.

    The treatment of the father-son theme in recent cinema tells us that what we have called the new psychology of men has a parallel in a movement that is underway in cinematic culture. These films, some of which include major Hollywood stars and are aimed at a mass audience, are in the process of redefining and broadening the concept of masculinity—that is, of what it means to be a man—as they demonstrate that men are deeply emotional beings for whom the relationship between father and son is a uniquely important emotional bond.

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    Corey Habben, Psy.D.
    President, SPSMM

    As I consider the approaching ten-year anniversary of SPSMM’s creation, I look at what we have done and where we are going. I look at our mission statement, and I feel that we have mostly been pretty good at following our original mission statement. We remain profeminist, gay-affirmative, valuing diversity in all its forms, and stand steadfast against sexist and constricting gender roles. This should never change. And at the same time, I see room for growth and evolution in our division. I believe that the future of the psychology of men is different than the current psychology of men. Not a change, but building on a foundation. Less shame, less afraid, more balanced view of men…the good, the bad, and the in-between.

    There had also been some interesting discourse in the SPSMM email listserv. In fact, many email listservs seem to provide provocative exchanges on gender. One of the problems with email listservs is that it often becomes a sounding board for radical extremist views; our list is certainly no exception. Yet, I believe it is upon us to listen to what people are saying about our division, as well as men and masculinity, as we consider our future because we may have something to learn from these discussions. I had read one three-part exchange posted on a general career listserv in which someone was seeking advice on working with men, to which another replied that she believed that “some older men seem to devalue women,” followed by a reply third individual who simply stated that “all men devalue women.” Was it sexist? Yes. Was it ignorant? Yes. Did I want to say something in response to that? Absolutely. Did I? No. I did not, because I was afraid of how I would be misinterpreted as sexist or misogynist. So what happened? The extremists spoke up instead. The radical men’s rights activists, whose mission departs from ours, end up speaking as representatives of men and masculinity.

    Every time we refuse to speak up for something like this and act as the voice of reason, we empower extremists to speak instead. We cannot blame extremists for speaking about something we should be speaking up for ourselves. I firmly believe that anytime something like this is said and those of us with any interest in gender equity do not oppose it or express outrage, we are partially accountable for not being true defenders of sexism. We must oppose sexism in all its forms. Is negatively stereotyping men true to our mission statement? Does it promote “the most healthy interactions between the genders” and the “enhancement of men’s capacity to experience their full human potential?” I believe that there may be something to be learned from the process of how we react or respond to these discussions.

    Why are we more resistant to defend men, when we see examples such as these? Why must our choices, in the face of sexist comments against men, be either silence or the rantings of extremists? Why can’t we speak up? Perhaps we are all afraid; afraid to offend the groups that other men (as we like to say “traditional men”) have offended for so long, and we do not want to be those same offenders. So, we run the risk of becoming afraid of saying the wrong thing and being miscast, and we avoid saying anything that could even be misinterpreted or presumed to be offensive.

    Many of us are afraid; I have heard many express that fear, and I often feel it myself. And yet, some of the greatest things done by men and women have been done in the face of fear. We cannot let fear hinder the study of men and masculinity. Fear and polarity are the enemies of gender studies. We are all studying the same thing, albeit from different angles. Some of us study men, some study women, some study gay men or black men, some study Asian women (and so on) and we often do this passionately. Our passion should not be taken to an extreme that we lose our objectivity; truth should not be the victim of indignation. For many years now, the preferred method of communication about politically charged issues seems to be expressing righteous indignation. Frankly, it has grown very tiresome.

    We should never give up seeing bad in the world, but never at the expense of forgetting to herald the good. I believe that we too often have done this in our division, and we often lose sight of what is good about masculinity. This was first crystallized for me as a graduate student when I read the introduction to Ron Levant’s book “Masculinity Reconstructed”. Yes, men have tendencies that are aggressive, violent, or emotionally distant. However, men also have tendencies toward sacrifice, loyalty, and resolve. Ideals often associated with masculinity have been driving forces for individuals, men and women, who we have considered heroes of late: firefighters, police officers, soldiers. Throughout history, men have traditionally been the attackers; yet, they have also traditionally been the defenders and rescuers. Men have caused many problems, but have also solved many others. It pains me when I see men, whether in our division or elsewhere, ashamed to be men. We should not be ashamed to be men. We should have shame for some of the things that men have done and what masculinity has represented, but we should not be ashamed to be men. Although I often see problems and needs for change in men and masculinity, I am proud to be a man…and I do not hear that enough in our division.

    During an APA convention in 1997, I was fortunate enough to serve as a discussant for an SPSMM symposium as a graduate student. During my remarks, I had this to say: “And one other skew that I would dare say I noticed is the tendency to focus on the dark side or shortcomings of men. Sadly, men are often categorized primarily as violent aggressors, absent fathers, emotionally devoid partners, misogynist pigs, brutal rapists, and so on and so on. And while these are crucial elements of masculinity to investigate, often the strengths of men, or the victimization of men…are overlooked in its place. I for one hope to see that trend change; not to overlook the dark side, but to provide a more balanced and accurate depiction of men.” At the time, it seemed like bold words from a graduate student. Nevertheless, I still not only believe that to be true today, but I believe it to be an even bigger reality.

    I believe that it is our responsibility to understand and examine both sides of masculinity; this includes not being afraid of seeing men as victims. Perhaps the least controversial example is men’s health. As many of us know, of the top ten leading causes of death, men die from every single cause of death at a higher rate than women. All ten, including: heart disease, cancer, cerebrovascular diseases, chronic lower respiratory diseases, accidental deaths, diabetes mellitus, influenza/pneumonia, suicide, chronic liver disease/cirrhosis, and homicide (National Center for Health Statistics, 2002). This should represent one of our future roles; helping not only with the problems that men and masculinity have caused, but also the problems from which men suffer.

    Perhaps the biggest danger to this division is groupthink, and our lack of awareness of it. There are other voices, which may not agree with ours, and we need to listen to them. Not agree with them, not appease them, but listen to them. We have a tendency to turn our ears deaf, reject them as ‘not being one of us,” and automatically assume that they are wrong. As with any organized body, whether individual or collective, an important part of development is to question what we believe. Let us not make the same mistake of arrogance so many others before us have made: claiming to be so absolutely certain about what is right and wrong, that we shut out any of those who disagree with us.

    The membership of this division will evolve over time as the generations evolve. Future generations grew up in a different era; those from my generation may share my experience; where feminism had already brought about important changes that shaped my view of men and women; growing up in an era in which a working, empowered woman did not look unusual, where non-traditional men did not stand out or look unusual. The fathers of my generation, and future generations, were not necessarily the Ward Cleavers and the Ozzie Nelsons. And there were a lot more Maudes, and fewer Donna Reeds. During the 1950’s or 1960’s, you would watch a television show about a patriarchal family, and it seemed pretty normal. Today, the average American watched “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” and just wanted to see more of it. I look forward to seeing how this division evolves as the times and our membership also evolve. I hope to still be with SPSMM decades from now, and I hope we still stay true to our mission statement…and I hope that we also look at men and masculinity in a balanced, accurate, and complete way.
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    Lorne Opler, M.A.

    Strange but true. I never learned to hit a ball, to bunt or steal a base when I grew up. As a kid, unlike most other boys, I chose not to play ball, even though my father wanted so badly for me to learn the sport that influenced his own childhood. Dad was a formidable ball player in his youth. He lived for afternoons on the sandlots of Lockport, a small western New York town, just south of the Lake Ontario shoreline. Dad would have liked nothing more than for his first-born son to share his love of second base. But I was too terrified to learn how to play; too intimidated by my athletic peers whose competitive and confident personalities drove home my all too obvious lack of physical skills.

    But even that kid who refused to tangle with those neighborhood rough-skins, knew that playing sports was the ticket to childhood popularity. I learned quickly that the best schoolyard jocks were usually the best liked classmates; at first, respected and envied by all the other boys, and later fawned and fantasized over by lovesick girls in training bras. At the cusp of my young manhood, I learned how unfair life could be sometimes. I understood that no matter how artistic or expansive my imagination was, such traits would never make other guys jealous nor launch doe eyed babes into fits of unrestrained ecstasy.

    As I gradually realized that the creative juices I had been blessed with would never merit the peer respect that an athletic body would, I concealed my G-d given gifts and began an earnest attempt to morph into that icon of adolescent worship…the high school jock. But just how does one born to be artist go about transforming himself into a teenage heartthrob without years of after school team workouts, sloppy handwriting, and bad table manners? I knew I would never make it into that closed, intimidating circle of varsity athletes – guys in letterman jackets, who ruled the school corridors with absolute authority; whose arms always seemed to be draped over the shoulders of prom queens I couldn’t say even say hi to. So what's a teenage jock in training to do?

    It then hit on me to fashion myself into something I had never heard nor seen before. I would not strive to be just another brain challenged teen macho man. I would become something completely different, something totally unique. I would teach myself to be…the sensitive jock. Soon, I was tossing baseballs against the side of a nearby junior high, destined to be the ball player I felt I should have always been. I taught myself how to throw, and how to catch. But then it all stopped…the dream of being a sensitive jock, I realized, was just a dream. I would never really be a true jock. I would never continue the legacy of my dad’s athletic prowess. Who was I kidding? And besides, I was going off to college, and had other things to be concerned with.

    But even after moving away and starting a new life for myself in the United States, I still felt the urgency to cultivate a sense of masculinity that I believed was chronically invisible. While mourning the reality that I would never be a team sports hero, and never experience the bonding, the friendships, the affirmations and validations to my masculinity that come from being a team player, I saw opportunity to both develop my athletic ability, and to satisfy my craving for masculine self identity through endurance sports. Such activity, I surmised, neither required gifted genes, nor a history of athletic ability and experience. I was always a decent swimmer I remembered, swimming being one of the few sports I actually enjoyed and pursued with regularity as a child. So, I began lap swimming in the athletic center, teaching myself how to flip turn, reading up on technique and stroke improvement, eventually joining a master’s swim group. I complemented my swim workouts with running sessions and pretty soon I was competing in triathlons. The sense of physical accomplishment I experienced was both gratifying and rewarding. I soon added weight training to this athletic regimen. I became dedicated to a life of physical fitness. It was my priority. So much so, I decided to enter graduate school and pursue master’s level work in health education. I wanted to turn my passion into a profession. And so I did. And I have been working for the past three years in the arena of physical fitness promotion, using my personal experiences to motivate others towards a life of health and well-being.

    I have physically built myself up to a level of strength and endurance I have never really known before. And yet, my goal has only been half accomplished. Privately, I have had to admit my attempts at physical self –improvement have done little if anything at all to enhance my sense of masculinity. The sense of shame I have carried for decades, a shame for feeling I am only half a man, has never gone away. I had hoped that through a life completely focused on and dedicated to physical enhancement, I would finally gain the healthy male ego that has long eluded me . But that never happened.

    For years I had been singularly pursuing a career track based on its potential and capacity to obliterate any outward trace of my male insecurity. What better way to accomplish this I thought, than through the very route that I was denied as a teenager…physical activity. At last, this would give me the needed credentials to join that fraternity of masculinity from which I was barred as a high schooler. By achieving competency among a class of men I once saw as threatening and intimidating, I would finally become one of them… a complete man. How obvious that I was seeking affirmation in all the wrong places. There was always someone faster, stronger, and bigger than me, wherever I ran, swam, biked or lifted. By hoping for a complete overhaul to my male ego through exercise alone, I was clearly setting myself up for more self-dissatisfaction and disappointment.

    It was only recently however, that I realized other options existed to help me achieve the masculine self-acceptance I’ve been searching a lifetime for. Soon after finishing graduate school I learned about the “men’s movement” and began searching for ways of connecting to other men through the open discussion and sharing of feelings, thoughts and emotions. Gradually I found my way to a men’s retreat, in the fall of last year. The weekend provided a forum for men to relate to each other in an honest, authentic and vulnerable way. I appreciated that. But something for me was missing from the weekend. I was encouraged not to think…just feel. There was a strong emphasis among the organizers to have participants bury their thoughts in order to uncover their feelings. In follow up sessions after the retreat, I was told directly not to think, just feel. While I understood the basis for such a directive, I also felt angry and frustrated. I wanted to be able to both feel and think. By requesting that I refrain from thinking, I was asked to give up a big part of who I was. I am a thinker. I like ideas. I value thought. I wanted to be validated for my capacity to analyze and reflect as much as for my ability to feel and empathize. But that was not going to happen. I realized I was not going to be affirmed by the very group of men in whom I initially anticipated such a hopeful sense of bonding. I could not be a robot. I could not suppress such a vital element of my being in order to secure the support of a group of men, no matter how vulnerable, and sensitive they were. After several weeks of post retreat encounter sessions, I left the group demoralized, alienated and misunderstood.

    Almost a year later, I decided to visit the APA conference. Having made the decision to apply to counseling doctoral programs, I felt it would behoove me to attend the convention and make contact with faculty who would be interested in my research goals. When I learned about Division 51 through the conference catalog, and read of their social hour, I knew this was one event I would have to attend. And what came of my encounter with the group, was everything the men’s retreat weekend was not. It did not take long at all to realize I was in a room full of men who were like me…feelers and thinkers! As I mingled among the crowd, and spoke with several Division 51 members, I felt instantly at home. I honestly could not believe the consistently warm reception I was given by everyone I met. Everyone! People took time to talk to me. People took time to ask me who I was…to find out what brought me to the social hour…to enquire of my interests. In the entire week I was at APA, I never received or experienced such an effusively hospitable welcome. Unlike all the other social hours I had attended previously, this one had the uncommon feel of a family reunion…and of a family where all the members were happy to see each other. Soon, I was invited to join the Division dinner at a nearby restaurant. Honestly, such kindness and hospitality I have never experienced at any professional conference. Throughout the course of the dinner, I engaged in absorbing and substantial conversation with so many men. I kept thinking to myself, “these men are bright, interesting, curious, informed….and warm, sensitive, open and embracing.”

    The sense of identification I felt that evening was unparalleled. When I say I left the company of these uncommonly special men transformed, I mean no exaggeration. For that night offered me not only a sense of feeling “at home” and of belonging, but it did more. That night showed me how healthy masculine identities form. The night gave me an opportunity to validate my manhood in ways never granted me before. I did not have to prove myself to anybody. I did not have to compete. I did not have to impress. I did not have to suppress any of my intrinsic talents to be accepted.

    It took little time for me to realize why that evening was special for me. Finally, and I believe for the first time in my life, my manhood was affirmed by other men in whom I identified with instinctively…men who thought and men who felt. What I was spending an adulthood seeking, I found not just in the men of Division 51, but really in the spirit, the essence and the meaning of Division 51. This essay therefore, is a thank you to everyone who made that night for me so memorable. It is my hope that I may one day have the privilege to give to other men, what each of you whom I met that evening, gave to me.

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    Join SPSMM-L

    Participate in SPSMM-L, the listserv for SPSMM members. It is a place to share current psychology of men and masculinity news, as well as updates regarding organizational aspects of SPSMM. If you have access to the Internet, you can subscribe to SPSMM-L at no cost. Send your request to spsmm@lists.apa.org—Michael E. Addis, PhD.

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    SPSMM Mission Statement

    The Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity (SPSMM) promotes the critical study of how gender shapes and constricts men’s lives, and is committed to an enhancement of men’s capacity to experience their full human potential. SPSMM endeavors to erode constraining definitions of masculinity which historically have inhibited men’s development, their capacity to form meaningful relationships, and have contributed to the oppression of other people. SPSMM acknowledges its historical debt to feminist-inspired scholarship on gender, and commits itself to the support of groups such as women, gays, lesbians and peoples of color that have been uniquely oppressed by the gender/class/race system. SPSMM vigorously contends that the empowerment of all persons beyond narrow and restrictive gender role definitions leads to the highest level of functioning in individual women and men, to the most healthy interactions between the genders, and to the richest relationships between them.

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    Division 51 Central Office

    Has your address changed?
    Do you have a question about your membership?
    Are you missing copies of the journal or newsletter?
    Do you need a membership application sent to a friend?

    Contact: Keith Cooke
    Division 51 Administrative Office
    American Psychological Association
    750 First Street, NE
    Washington, DC 20002-4242
    Phone: 202-336-6197 • Fax: 202-218-3599
    Email: kcooke@apa.org
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    Div 51 Midwinter Retreat


    If you have not already let me know about your interest in attending Division
    51's Mens Retreat in March, please do so in the next week. I don't need an
    absolute commitment from you at this time, but I do need an approximate number
    to complete the planning. The cost will be in the $50 range.
    I will send out a formal request for Registration in the near future. For
    now, I just need to know if there is a good chance you will be coming.

    Send me a note at: johnrobe@ksu.edu
    The retreat itself will be held for the entire day. The focus will be on
    sharing experiences and perspectives about our journeys as men.
    You may want to come a little early or stay awhile and take a mini-break to
    enjoy Kansas City. There is much to see and do:

    Jazz. Kansas City is renowned for its rich jazz legacy. A legacy that started
    more than 80 years ago, jazz is now presented at more than 20-area nightclubs
    across Kansas City. The Club at Plaza III, the Phoenix Piano Bar and Grill and
    The Blue Room are just a few of the many jazz clubs operating today.

    Barbecue. One of the best known features of Kansas City is the barbecue
    tradition. Arthur Bryant's Barbecue and Gates Barbecue are two of the city's
    most recognized barbecue restaurants, each with its own distinct taste.
    Bryant's gained national attention when renowned food critic and "New Yorker"
    columnist Calvin Trillion, a native of Kansas City, wrote that Arthur Bryant's
    was "the single best restaurant in the world.

    "Negro Baseball League Museum. The new Negro Leagues Baseball Museum features
    a 10,000 square-foot multi-media exhibit. The gallery is arranged on a time
    line of African American and baseball history from the 1860s-1950s.
    And much more: world class art museums (both contemporary and traditional),
    and many shops in the downtown Country Club Plaza section of town.
    Weather? Worried about the Midwest in March? Average high temperatures are
    in the mid 50's.
    Again...let me know if you are considering coming!

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    Application for Membership in SPSMM
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    SPSMM Policy on Book Reviews  

    SPSMM provides book reviews for members to learn about the latest books in the field. Currently, book reviews are published in the SPSMM Bulletin because page space in the Division’s journal Psychology of Men and Masculinity (PMM) is at a premium with priority being placed on publishing manuscripts. This policy could be revisited once additional pages are allocated to PMM.

    Persons interested in reviewing books or having their books reviewed in the Bulletin should contact the SPSMM Book Review Editor. The SPSMM Bulletin Book Editor will exercise his or her discretion as to which book will be reviewed in any given issue based on his or her judgment about the interests of the membership and mission of SPSMM. The current SPSMM Book Review Editor is Dr. Jay Wade, Department of Psychology, Fordham University, Dealy Hall, 441 E. Fordham Rd., Bronx, NY 10458.

    Book reviewers must assert in writing that they do not have a conflict of interest or personal relationship that would interfere with providing an objective review. The Book Review Editor will select reviewers in response to an author’s request, and the author will provide a copy of the book to the Book Review Editor.

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    Report from the Council of Represenatives

    Fred Rabinowitz substituted for Glenn Good at the Council Meeting in Toronto. I found the meeting interesting, but often concerned with details and agendas that had only tangential relevance to division 51. Although I took lots of notes I have summarized the three main points that might be affect SPSMM membership:

    1. APA is currently in much better fiscal shape due to refinancing of buildings and low interest rates. The implication is that there will be some more money available to fund projects within APA, including the reinstitution of committee and task force meetings. Membership dues will rise slightly but not at levels predicted by earlier budget deficits.

    2. APA will be starting a new database called PsycExtra in 2004 that will use content from APA Monitor, State and Division Newsletters, and other non-journal (but significant)documents to link consumers, policy makers, librarians, clinicians and researchers to credible sources of information concerning psychology, health, and behavioral sciences.

    3. APA Council of Reps will maintain its current structure of inclusivity despite some calls to eliminate smaller membership groups to streamline decision-making.

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    Come and Get It!

    The Division’s Cookbook is ready for release and people are raving about it. In the words of Sam Cochran, “This is a spectacular collection of recipes and stories, truly distinctive in the world of cookbooks . . . I will treasure this book for many years to come. After all, in what other cookbook will you find Lenore Walker’s Holiday Turkey, David Lisak’s inspirational recipe for red chile sauce, Murry Scher’s ‘best blueberry muffins in the world’ recipe, Ron Levant’s couscous-stuffed green pepper recipe, or David Rose’s Teppanyaki Pancake recipe (yum). All the recipes in the book are clearly ‘family favorites’ that are conveyed with a loving and charming sense of personal history. This is a cookbook that everyone must own!” The Division’s Cookbook is now available by sending a $20 check to Larry Beer at Child and Family Psychological Services, 5380 Holiday Terrace, Kalamazoo, MI 49009. Make your check payable to “Larry Beer.”

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    Psychological Student of Men and Masculinity

    Division 51 of the American Psychological


    January-December 2003

    Corey Habben, PsyD
    Behavioral Health Clinic
    Walter Reed Army Medical Center
    Building 6, Rm 3054
    Washington, DC 20307-5001
    Phone: 202-782-8034
    Fax: 202-782-8379
    E-mail: chabben@juno.com

    John Robertson, PhD
    Kansas State University
    Lafaene Student Health Room 238
    Manhattan, KS 66506
    (Will soon change to Lawrence, Kansas)
    Phone: 785-532-6927
    E-mail: jrobertson@sunflower.com

    Sam Cochran, PhD  
    3223 Westlawn
    University of Iowa
    Iowa City, IA 52242-1100
    Phone: (319) 335-7294
    Fax: (319) 335-7298
    E-mail: sam-cochran@uiowa.edu

    Lawrence B. Beer, EdD
    6101 Rothbury Street
    Portage, MI 49024-2390
    Phone: (616) 372-4140
    Fax: (616) 372-0390
    E-mail: lbbkzoo@aol.com  

    TREASURER (2002-2003)
    Michele Harway, PhD
    Antioch University
    801 Garden Street
    Santa Barbara, CA 93101
    Phone: 805-962-8179 x320
    Fax: 805-962-4786
    E-mail: mharway@antiochsb.edu

    Doug Haldeman, PhD
    2910 E. Madison St., #302
    Seattle, WA 98112
    Phone: (w) (206) 328-6025; (h) (206) 364-8276
    Fax: (206) 860-2411
    E-mail: 76043.520@compuserve.com  

    Marty Wong, PhD
    Counseling Psychologist
    15 Elizabeth street
    Charleston, SC 29403
    Phone: 843-452-7516
    E-mail: BarbatWong@aol.com

    Neil A. Massoth, PhD (2001-2003)
    Fairleigh Dickinson University
    Teaneck, NJ 07666
    Phone: (201) 692-2300
    Fax: (201) 444-7201
    E-mail: nmassoth@aol.com

    Holly B. Sweet, PhD (2001-2003)
    Room 24-612, MIT
    77 Massachusetts Avenue
    Cambridge, MA 02135
    Phone: (617) 253-7786
    Fax: (617) 258-9500
    E-mail: hbsweet@mit.edu

    Glenn E. Good, PhD
    16 Hill Hall, University of Missouri
    Columbia, MO 65211
    Phone: (573) 882-3084
    Fax: (573) 884-5989
    E-mail: edcogood@showme.missouri.edu

    Ron Levant, EdD, ABPP
    Office of the Dean
    Center for Psychological Studies
    Nova Southeastern University
    3301 College Avenue
    Fort Lauderdale, FL 33314
    Phone: (954) 262-5701
    Fax: (954) 262-3859
    E-mail: RLevant@aol.com

    Taleb Khairallah
    62 East 200 South 123-3
    Ephram, UT 84627
    Phone: (435) 253-8078
    E-mail: talebk@iname.com

    Gloria Behar Gottsegen, PhD
    5011 West Oakland Park Blvd—#210A
    Lauderdale Lakes, FL 33313
    E-mail: GGottsegen@aol.com
    Phone: (954) 733-1685
    Fax: (954) 733-1685


    Sam V. Cochran, Ph.D.

    Fred Rabinowitz, PhD
    Psychology Department
    University of Redlands
    1200 E. Colton Avenue
    Redlands, CA 92373-0999
    Phone: 909-793-2121 x3863
    Fax: 909-335-5305
    Email: fredric_ rabinowitz@redlands.edu

    Gary Brooks, PhD
    Baylor University
    Pager: (800) 752-3307 (ID#3988730)
    E-mail:  Gbrooks300@aol.com  

    Marty Wong, PhD
    Counseling Psychologist
    15 Elizabeth street
    Charleston, SC 29403
    Phone: 843-452-7516
    E-mail: MartyWongPhD2@aol.com

    Mark S. Kiselica, Ph.D., HSPP, NCC, LPC (2004)
    Fellow and Former President, Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinity: Division 51, American Psychological Association
    Professor and Chairperson
    Department of Counselor Education
    332 Forcina Hall
    The College of New Jersey
    P. O. Box 7718
    Ewing, New Jersey 08628-0718
    Office Phone: (609) 771-3462
    Office Fax: (609) 637-5166
    email: kiselica@tcnj.edu

    Michael G.S. Gottfried, Ph.D.
    St. Louis University
    Student Health and Counseling Services
    Marchetti Towers East, 3518 Laclede
    St. Louis, MO 63103
    Fax: 314-977-7165
    Work: 314-977-2323
    Email: Gottfrm@slu.edu

    John Roberston, PhD

    David S. Shepard, Ph.D.
    Dept. of Counseling,
    California State University, Fullerton.
    P.O. Box 6868,
    Fullerton, CA 92834-6868;
    Fax: 714-278-4456
    e-mail: dshepard@fullerton.edu..

    Laura Anibal Braceland
    Division Services Coordinator
    American Psychological Association
    202-216-7602 (p)
    202-218-3599 (f) email: lanibalbraceland@apa.org

    Michael Addis, PhD
    Department of Psychology
    Clark University
    950 Main Street
    Worchester, MA 10610
    E-mail: maddis@clark.edu

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    Division 51 Webmaster: Laura Anibal Braceland

    Last modification on: October 31, 2003