| Tips for "Back to School" Season
The beginning of fall is a time of transition for many parents and children.
The new school year ushers in a host of changes-new classrooms, teachers,
and expectations for students and parents, as well as the need to establish
new schedules and routines. Students may be switching to new schools or
school districts, or beginning new afterschool or extra-curricular activities.
Each of these transitions has the potential to be stressful, but also
brings with it opportunities for learning and meeting new people.
During this busy time, it is important to support your children as they
navigate these changes and new experiences. Encourage your children to
talk to you, and listen to what they have to say. Among the many resources
available for parents from APA
Help Center are the following tips for communicating with your children:
Be available for your children
- Ask your children what they may want or need from you in a conversation,
such as advice, simply listening, help in dealing with feelings, or
help solving a problem.
- Notice times when your kids are most likely to talk--for example,
at bedtime, before dinner, in the car--and be available.
- Start the conversation; it lets your kids know you care about what's
happening in their lives.
Let your kids know you're listening
- When your children are talking about concerns, stop whatever you
are doing and listen.
- Express interest in what they are saying without being intrusive.
- Realize your children may test you by telling you a small part of
what is bothering them. Listen carefully to what they say, encourage
them to talk, and they may share the rest of the story.
Respond in a way your children will hear
- Soften strong reactions; kids will tune you out if you appear angry
or defensive.
- Express your opinion without putting down theirs; acknowledge that
it's okay to disagree.
- Kids learn by imitating. Most often, they will follow your lead in
how they deal with anger, solve problems, and work through difficult
feelings.
For the complete article: Parenting:
Communication Tips for Parents |
