Do You Think You Might Be Abusing?

• Has my partner told me that my words or actions hurt him/her?

• Has my partner asked me to stop those hurtful words or actions?

• Have I ever used force or threats to make my partner do something?

• Have I ever used force or threats to prevent my partner from doing something he/she wanted to do?

• Has my partner complained that I have pressured him/her into unwanted sexual activities?

• Has my partner complained that I control or dominate his/her life in unwanted ways?

If you answered yes to any of these, you are probably engaging in a form of emotional, physical, and/or sexual abuse against you partner. You may not think you are an abusive person or that your words or actions are enough to hurt someone. But, it is not about what you think you actions are doing or should do to your partner. What matters is how your actions affect him/her. You MUST stop your abusive behavior.

Help is available, but you must be willing to:

• Stop your abusive words and actions

• Admit your abusive behavior to yourself and others

• Talk about what you have done and be willing to face the consequences

This may not be easy for you. But think of the difference it could make for your partner, your family, and yourself!

For more information, contact:

• The National Domestic Violence Hotline
  (888) 799-SAFE

• Men Stopping Violence
  (404) 688-1376

• My Sister's Place
  (202) 529-5991