Behaving Badly: Aversive Behaviors in Interpersonal Relationships
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Most of us spend our lives craving positive, healthy connections with others, but relationships are often the source of many of life's greatest frustrations. Behaving Badly takes a uniquely honest look at the dark side of relating with others. How can the loved one who raises your spirits one day be an insensitive jerk the next? Why is it that the closer people become, the greater the likelihood that they will offend, embarrass, annoy, and hurt one another?
Some of the most commonly experienced aversive phenomenon are explored in this book, including teasing, swearing, gossiping, and betrayal. These aversive behaviors have profound implications for the process of social interaction, and this book fills a gap by gathering the most interesting research on this oft-overlooked area of study. Rich in research and vivid examples, the chapters of this volume explore these behaviors through the eyes of both victims and perpetrators, often revealing the hidden benefits of aversive behavior. Social psychologists, clinicians, therapists, and anyone interested in those aggravating elements of relationships should read this book.
I. Aversive Interpersonal Behaviors: An Introduction
- Aversive Interpersonal Behaviors: On Being Annoying, Thoughtless, and Mean
—Robin M. Kowalski
II. Improper and Distancing Behaviors
- Breaches of Propriety
—Rowland S. Miller
- You****!: Swearing as an Aversive and a Relational Activity
—Alaina M. Winters and Steve Duck
- Aversive Self-Presentations
- The Aversive Interpersonal Context of Depression: Emerging Perspectives on Depressotypic Behavior
—Jennifer Katz and Thomas E. Joiner, Jr.
III. Hurting Others
- Hurt Feelings: The Neglected Emotion
—Mark R. Leary and Carrie A. Springer
- Permitted Disrespect: Teasing in Interpersonal Interactions
—Robin M. Kowalski, Elsie Howerton, and Michelle McKenzie
- Rumor and Gossip in Interpersonal Interaction and Beyond: A Social Exchange Perspective
—Ralph L. Rosnow
- Interpersonal Transgressions and Betrayals
—Warren H. Jones, Danny S. Moore, Arianne Schratterr, and Laura M. Negel
- Aversive Behavior and Aggression in Cultural Perspective
—James T. Tedeschi and Michael Harris Bond
- The Aversive Side of Social Interaction Revisited
—Robin M. Kowalski
About the Editor
Robin M. Kowalski, PhD, is a professor of psychology at Western Carolina University in Cullowhee, North Carolina. She obtained her PhD in social psychology from the University of North Carolina at Greensboro. Her research interests include social anxiety, social–psychological factors in health and illness, gender and aggression, and aversive interpersonal behaviors (specifically complaining and teasing). She is the editor of the book Aversive Interpersonal Behaviors, is coeditor of the book The Social Psychology of Emotional and Behavioral Problems, and coauthor of the book Social Anxiety. Her research on complaining brought her international attention, including an appearance on NBC's "Today Show."