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Couples Therapy for Extramarital Affairs
with Don-David Lusterman, PhD
Part of the Specific Treatments for Specific Populations APA Psychotherapy Video Series

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LIST PRICE: $99.95
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ITEM #: 4310360
ISBN: 1-55798-844-7
ISBN 13: 978-1-55798-844-7
RUNNING TIME: Over 100 minutes
FORMAT: VHS
Also available in: DVD

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ABOUT THE VIDEO

In Couples Therapy for Extramarital Affairs, Dr. Don-David Lusterman demonstrates his empathic, psychoeducational approach to working with couples in which one partner has had an affair. Therapy begins with acknowledgment of the "victim" status of the partner who discovered the affair. Dr. Lusterman then works to restore trust and helps the discoverer to transcend the role of victim by encouraging empathy in the offending partner for the discoverer's feelings. In this session, Dr. Lusterman works with a couple in which the husband has admitted to an affair with a coworker. The emotionally charged nature of this session requires the therapist to actively guide the couple away from the dynamic of blame and blame-avoidance toward honesty and openness.

This video features a client portrayed by an actor on the basis of actual case material.

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ABOUT THE APPROACH

Couples therapy in cases of marital infidelity must begin with an acknowledgment of the trauma experienced by the discoverer. The therapist must help both partners understand the precise nature of the trauma occasioned by the infidelity and its predictable effects. Integrating this psychoeducational focus with a strongly empathic attitude toward the discoverer's pain models for the offending mate the empathy needed to support his or her partner and provides a basis for understanding how healing can occur.

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ABOUT THE THERAPIST

Don-David Lusterman, PhD, is in independent practice in Baldwin, New York. He received his doctorate in clinical psychology from the Ferkauf School of Yeshiva University, and was also trained at the Family Studies Program of Roosevelt Hospital, in New York City. He was the founding executive director of the American Board of Family Psychology (now part of the American Board of Professional Psychology [ABPP]) and established the program in family counseling at Hofstra University.

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SUGGESTED READINGS

  • Brown, E. (1991). Patterns of infidelity and their treatment. New York: Brunner/Mazel.
  • Glass, S. P., & Wright, T. L. (1997). Reconstructing marriages after the trauma of infidelity. In K. Halford & H. Markman (Eds.), Clinical handbook of marriage and couple interventions (pp. 471–507). New York: Wiley.
  • Janoff-Bulman, R. (1992). Shattered assumptions: Towards a new psychology of trauma. New York: Free Press.
  • Lawson, A. (1988). Adultery: An analysis of love and betrayal. New York: Basic Books.
  • Lusterman, D-D. (1989, May/June). Marriage at the turning point. The Family Therapy Networker, 13, 44–51.
  • Lusterman, D-D. (1995). Treating marital infidelity. In R. Mikesell, D-D. Lusterman, & S. McDaniel (Eds.), Integrating family therapy: Handbook of family psychology and systems theory (pp. 259–269). Washington, DC: American Psychological Association.
  • Moultrup, D. (1990). Husbands, wives and lovers: The emotional system of the extramarital affair. New York: Guilford Press.
  • Pittman, F. (1989). Private lies: The betrayal of infidelity. New York: Norton.

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