The anxiety disorder treatment with the strongest evidence base for success is CBT tailored to the specific anxiety disorder, usually lasting for 12 to 20 sessions and sometimes more. While the application differs depending on the youth’s condition, the basic methodology is the same: addressing unrealistic or exaggerated anxious thoughts and exposing youth to the things they fear until they experience and learn that the anticipated catastrophe does not occur. As a result, they become less triggered when they enter similar situations.
Treatment begins with a holistic assessment of the child, said Clark Goldstein, PhD, who specializes in treating youth anxiety disorders and is founder of Growth Psychology, P.C., a private practice in Garden City, New York. He uses an evidence-based assessment tool, the Anxiety Disorders Interview Schedule, or ADIS, asking questions of the parents and child separately to gain an understanding of the child’s symptoms. He also asks questions of both to learn about mood issues, family dynamics, and family history. And he screens for other conditions such as attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, autism spectrum disorders, and eating disorders.
With children and teens, Goldstein begins treatment by showing them a diagram depicting thoughts, feelings, and behaviors connected via bidirectional arrows. He explains that positive thoughts can lead to positive behaviors, and negative behaviors can lead to negative feelings, for example.
“The aim is to help kids start to understand the difference between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and that can be challenging sometimes, even for teenagers,” he said.
The next few sessions focus on the cognitive aspects of treatment, working with youth to recognize common cognitive distortions such as probability overestimation (believing the chances that something bad will happen are higher than they actually are) and emotional reasoning (the propensity to think, “I feel like it’s true; therefore, it’s true.”). He also teaches young people to notice and label their thoughts, which helps them separate the negative thought from the distorted take on reality that often emerges from unrealistic anxiety. For example, “‘I notice that I’m having the thought that the dog is going to bite me’ is very different from, ‘The dog’s going to bite me,’” he said.
Such strategies help set the stage for what experts agree is the most powerful part of treatment: the behavioral work. It starts with developing a “fear and avoidance hierarchy”—a list of situations the child or teen is asked to rate based on how strong their fear is, sometimes with the help of parents. Then, in a gradated fashion, the therapist helps them enter the feared situations, known as exposures or behavioral experiments. For example, if a teen’s big fear is asking someone on a date, exposures might include practicing various scenarios with a therapist in which they are rejected, accepted, or treated neutrally. If a child has an intense fear of dogs, exposures might include helping them look at cute dogs on the internet, pet a stuffed dog, or feed a gentle, old dog.
Goldstein also has kids rate their progress along the way, including toward the end of treatment. Seeing their fear levels drop from 10 to 2, for example, “is a nice confidence boost, and it helps kids see the fruits of their labor,” he said.
Parents take part in treatment in different capacities depending on the situation, Merson added. With very young children, she may see parents and children together for all or most of the sessions, or just work with the parents alone. For older kids and teens, she often sees the child separately for most of a given session and then brings in the parents for the last 10 minutes to do a recap and go over homework. She may also see parents of older children alone for a few sessions to ensure that they can effectively coach their children in using new anxiety-management skills.
No matter the structure of treatment, however, parental involvement is key, Merson emphasized. Often, parents unwittingly foster a child’s anxiety by providing too much reassurance or protection. While that is a natural response, “it can actually perpetuate anxiety in the long term because the child isn’t learning how to handle difficult situations themself,” she said. Other parents may invalidate or ignore children’s anxious reactions, which can leave kids feeling unsettled and strain the parent-child relationship.
Merson helps parents develop the winning communication strategy of acknowledging and empathizing with their child’s feelings while at the same time promoting their autonomy and not giving too much credence to their anxiety. She also works with parents to facilitate behavioral experiments at home to help kids practice facing anxiety-provoking situations.